-but certainly the cruelest, and that's what counts when it gets down to it. My confession is that I managed to lock myself out of my blog for a bit, but now everything is up and running again, so I can continue my series on the ART of domination. I have covered a few things, and I would like to cover today the ART of Orgasm denial... one of my most favorite ways to make a man suffer.

Why do I enjoy  the process so much? I think the delicacy of it all- getting pushed to the brink time and time again only to be forced to hold back once again. I assume this must be a profoundly frustrating process, orgasm denial, in that you feel this overwhelming tension. Grown men have been reduced to begging like mere animals on the ground, moaning and pleading with desperation and need. I will not let them submit instantly to the worldly pleasure though, for they do not know what it is that they TRULY desire.

Balancing desire in a world of instant gratification, then, becomes quite the challange. In this McDonald's world, we think that what we want is what we need- and they think they need instant release. This will not be allowed though- and that is something beautiful. As I begin to take ownership of what eventually becomes MY cock- not yours, but MY cock, you suffer all the more.

Is the reward not sufficient, the release in the long term though? I think you personally have to be the judge of that with regards to your submission, but, and this is a big but, I think that discipline we learn reaps huge rewards... something to consider.  

Now I know scat and piss play is not a lot of people’s cup of tea, and I understand. I mean, of course, the initial thought “I’m ingesting someone’s waste/feces/urine” can be quite appalling. If this is not your bag, then feel free to skip over this… but for those who it is your bag, I think this is for you.

I love scat and piss play. In my dungeon I used to have a built toilet seat with a mirror which was a delight- watching that open mouth begging for its reward. Furthermore, I loved watching the apprehensive sub slut squirm during his first attempt- so entertaining. It all just was such a gas… and what a way to put someone in their place!!

I recently heard a rather amusing tale from one of my good friends who was also into the BDSM scene, although more casually than myself. She was recalling the first time a gentleman requested that she piss all over him… and rather than a slow, sensual tease as it should be, drip by drip perhaps, she just let it rip all over him. The visual of this poor man drowning in her piss was enough to make anyone roll over laughing… what a delight!

The “moral” of that tale though, I suppose, is that there is an art to it, a way. I love the slow and steady drip drip drip process, where the subbie slut is rewarded to the point of varying degrees until they reach the full unleash. How do you like your piss play I guess is the ultimate question, right?

I think one of the most seductive aspects of BDSM is developing an intense understanding of the balance between pain and pleasure. The two cannot exist independent of each other- after all, what is pleasure without pain? And pain without pleasure? The intermingling of the two, dancing with both beasts within the moment is so powerful, and so much the source of my power in the scenarios we create as Mistress and Submissive.

I miss the highly the visual and instant gratification of punishment while actually physically doling out pain. Yes, this is what I miss the most about my dungeon. I am shocked, though, how much grimaces via telephone wires suffice in fulfilling the perverse needs that drives my desire to punish. Although I still administer a finite amount of discipline in my day to day life, I miss the complete control of existing as Mistress, real time. To hold fate in my hands- is that not the true definition of living as goddess? To control the spectrum that a pathetic slut toy exists on… well, that truly is art.

I have to say one of the first components and keys to unlocking an amazing Mistress and submissive relationship is developing a firm understanding of the mind of your submissive. One of the most difficult things for any person is to communicate effectively, and I think this can be particularly challenging when dealing with a submissive who expects you to instantly and fully take the reigns… ahh, if only I could explain to them/you how powerful an experience I can provide when I have been offered tidbits worthy of exploitation.

I need to know your closet desires… to understand what you secretly wish for and hope for- or fear. Do you dream of your lips wrapped around a hard pulsating member? Do you picture your ass being spread open and raped with my strap on? Do you fear financial ruination? I can provide you with all of these things… a true submissive understands the art form, though, of allowing their mind to truly be controlled.

I think this aspect, this very initial aspect, is something that is easier to lose in translation via the phone versus real life. There is something profoundly satisfying about staring a pathetic slut in the eye as I tower over him, and washing the flash of panic when you hit their “button”. The single moment they become yours forever is the most pure- but the best things in life are worth waiting for! I have achieved this via the telephone, but only from the men toys who understand the key concept of the more you give the more you get… ultimately for better or worse.

One of the things that I find myself complaining about often is the lack of artistry in domination these days. Trends are trends no matter the context, and I suppose it is naive of me to think sexuality is somehow exempt from experiencing its own brand of trends, but I am just… well, saddened that BDSM in all its glory is being deconstructed from an art form, a way of life, to ‘children’ shrieking “money pig” into the phone lines. Don’t get me wrong, my beef isn’t with the concept of competition or financial domination, or everything else that is out there. Quite the opposite in fact; there is a world of deeply talented women out there who have made the same lifestyle commitment to this notion of a higher form of living that I have. My issue, then, is with anything that strips domination of existing, conceptually and in reality as an art form/way of life… let’s purge words like “switch” and whatnot and get down to what it’s all about! And, since this is my blog, and my opinions, that is exactly what I shall do!

How, you ask? Well, dear reader, so begins my own “The Art of…” series, where I will wax philosophical about the components of this lifestyle that I personally hold nearest and dearest. I have been meaning to reflect on my real world experiences living as a professional and lifestyle dominatrix and couple it with what I wish to bring to the telephone… I am sure you will be waiting with bated breath!

Until then,

Mistress Chastity

Greetings, and thank you so much for stopping by!

I am Mistress Chastity, owner of www.PureGodess.com- where the missing 'D' stands for DOMINATION, new blogger, and all around Domination/BDSM Goddess. I am thrilled to be online and out there in the telephone domination scene, and I look forward to getting to know all of you... and perhaps playing with many of you. Doing a blog is something I have flirted with for quite some time, and I am excited now to be out there and taking the leap if you will.

About me: I am a lifestyle domme who spent many years as a professional dominatrix in a studio in Seattle. I NO LONGER DO REAL LIFE/TIME domination beyond my personal life, and I have instead chosen to focus my efforts on the art of telephone domination. Although there are many differences in the forum, I think the goals of BDSM can remain consistent to the core. I derive a lot of pleasure from my professional life, and I truly look forward to sharing with those who choose to step forward and dive into the experience. If you want more details about what I specifically offer, please be sure to check out www.PureGodess.com, where, as always, the Missing 'D' Stands for DOMINATION.

All of this said, please make sure to bookmark me, for I will be updating often. I look forward to sharing my life and experiences with you, and eventually exploring together. I have also included many links to my friend's personal sites as well as their blogs, so if you are looking for some more Goddesses (although, sadly, in my opinion, none of them are BDSM!) and some more great reading, make sure to check them out.

Until next time,

Mistress Chastity